Jessica Drake Interview: Masturbation Month, Sex Toy Picks & More

Spring is upon us! That time of year where flowers are blooming and the birds are chirping. As you fire up the grill to cook some burgers and dogs, spatula in one hand and phone in the other, you may be scrolling and stumble across a goofy meme or your favorite porn star on social media that lets you know that, yes, May is national Masturbation Month. That time of year where you are encouraged to praise your clit, stroke your cock, and pleasure your body. Although at Adult Empire, we encourage that year round.

Yes, there have been many questionable “national” holidays that have been celebrated recently, like National Stuffed Mushroom Day or National Take a Nap Day, and although we may enjoy stuffed mushrooms and naps, Masturbation Month actually stands out from these others because it has some history behind it.

So, what’s the history that helps us celebrate us treating ourselves to self-pleasure to achieve the big O? In December 1994, United States President Bill Clinton terminated Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders from her position for suggesting masturbation should be promoted to young people as an alternative to riskier forms of sexual activity. In 1995, the sex toy retailer Good Vibrations declared May 7th “National Masturbation Day” in protest of Elders’s termination. In later years, the annual event was expanded to include the entire month of May.

Educated? Good! So in honor of masturbation month we decided to pair up with Wicked Sensual Care, offering 15% off their lubricants so that you can get the most intense, slick, body safe, and quality five knuckle shuffle experience there is to offer. When you buy a Wicked Sensual Care item and use it, and we aren’t just encouraging solo play since with a partner is always encouraged as well, you will surely see why they were named Best Lubricant Manufacturer for 2018 at the AVN awards.

Besides all the ridiculously great qualities of this line of lubricants, Wicked Sensual Cares spokeswoman is the beautiful blonde multiple AVN/XBIZ award winner, well-rounded adult star and sex educator, Jessica Drake. Besides being a Wicked Sensual Care spokeswoman, this AVN hall of famer understands that there is a demand for modern sex education, so Jessica teamed up with Wicked Pictures, launching Jessica Drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex, a series of erotic educational films. We figured with her outstanding knowledge of sex, and in our opinion, the best lube line on the market, we decided to chat with Jessica about Wicked Sensual Care, her favorite products to use with the lube line, and masturbation. Who doesn’t want a pornstar opinion on lube and masturbation? This is what she had to say . . .

Jessica Drake Q&A

What are 5 words you would use to describe Wicked Sensual Care line?

Luxurious, sexy, creative, all-inclusive, vegan.

What got you into being so pro-lube?

Through time, education, and experience, I’ve become more in touch with my body and I’ve grown to understand sex in ways I didn’t before. Not only does lube decrease friction and make sex easier, it also reduces the possibility of tiny tears in delicate areas that could lead to infection.

What are your top 3 Wicked Sensual Care products and why?

1. Ultra is the absolute best silicone lube I’ve ever used. It’s long lasting and so smooth, great for all kinds of sex.

  1. Ultra Heat — the same high quality silicone lube, it has ingredients like cinnamon and clove oils that provide warming sensations which are intense but not overpowering. I find it incredible for anal play.
  2. A tossup between Aqua Sweet Peach or Salted Caramel. They are the tastiest flavored lubes I’ve ever tried, mouthwatering and no weird aftertaste…plus you can go from oral sex to vaginal or anal with no problem.

Since you’ve been working with the Wicked Sensual Care line for some time now, do you have any other tips for using lubricant other than just simply for masturbation or intercourse?

We have a product called Cleene, a spray toy cleaner. I show folks that not only is it good for toys, it’s great for cleaning your bottles of lube. (When’s the last time you did THAT?) Creme, our coconut oil based stroking cream, can be amazing for a sensual massage. Use it alone for an unscented rub down or blend in a few drops of your favorite essential oil to enhance the experience.

What are some common questions/mistakes that people make with lubricants that you have helped correct by being a GLORIOUS brand ambassador?

The top mistake I’ve seen is not using lube at all or using a lube simply because it’s cheaper or it’s been around longer. Second to that would be the thought process of “Oh, I shouldn’t need that- I should be aroused all the time.” or “My partner shouldn’t need lube if I’m doing my job.” That’s when ego gets in the way of personal satisfaction. The reality is lube is your best friend with MANY benefits.

Have you gotten any of your other friends in the adult industry into the Wicked Sensual Care line, and if so who?

Every time I shoot one of my educationals, I have Aqua, Aqua Sensitive, Ultra, Jelle, and usually a few flavors on set. In my personal set bag, it’s Ultra. Let’s just say that by now, performers are requesting a selection of their own. I LOVE giving it out.

May is Masturbation Month. Why do you think masturbation is good?

Masturbation is SO amazing! It’s a great stress reliever, it can help you fall asleep, it can be an amazing way to explore your body and try new things before you share them with a partner, and mutual masturbation is a window into your partner’s ultimate desire when it comes to how they like to be touched.

What are 2 or 3 men’s sex toys and 2 or 3 women’s sex toys that you think are the best for everyday masturbation?

For penis owners: My Fleshlight, Hot Octopus, We-Vibe’s Verge cock ring for stamina training. Vulva/clit owners: We-Vibe’s Touch or Wish, The Womanizer, LeWand, also Tantus dildos (bonus — Wicked Sensual’s Awaken, a clitoral massaging gel). Anal toys: anything from BVibe, metal buttplugs, anything from Aneros with our Anal Jelle.

Why can I come from solo masturbation, but I can’t orgasm with my partner?

(depends on the people) Usually it’s a mental block, an inability to let go, maybe someone is thinking too much or worrying about taking too long. One of my proposed solutions is to incorporate masturbation into partnered play, watch each other, let the other take over a few times, and just get more comfortable with it. Adding toys can also be helpful.

Best tip to give to couples that want to masturbate together?

Make it fun with no forced expectation of orgasm. Just explore yourselves in front of one another. Talk about the sensations and what you love.

Best tip to give to couples that get mad at the other for masturbating alone?

I’d ask some clarifying questions. Is someone feeling left out or are they not having sex? Are there own sexual needs not being met? Do they feel insecure? Usually some very clear communication can solve this one, if both folks are willing to try.

Best tip to give to couples that hesitant to bring lubricant or sex toys into the bedroom?

Check the ego at the door! Think of these things as sexual accessories or sexual enhancers. Imagine making sex the best it can be for you…what can you play with that would be fun?

Being a popular porn star, how does it feel to know that during masturbation month, and every month, men and women all over the world are orgasming to you during masturbation?

Once upon a time, it was a bit strange or surreal. Now it’s AWESOME — especially when i hear from people how I’ve contributed to their own sexual experimentation and growth.

Do you remember the first things you masturbated to?

When I was *very* young, I sat on a foot massager. I really didn’t have time to think about much, nor did I know what was happening. A little later on, I would hump everything and think about my best friend (a girl) or people kissing on TV, or imagine a lot of naked people.

What about nowadays?

Often the same thing, also sex with strangers, some consensual forced fantasies, Being dominated, orgies, and I revisit some of my favorite sexual experiences over the years.

How has your masturbation changed from when you first started till now?

I can come way faster if I want to, I have many more ways to do it, more toys and sensation play, and SO many more opportunities.

Do you have any funny or embarrassing masturbation stories?

In the Wicked movie The Collector, I did my first DP. When the movie came out, I watched the scene and was in the process of reenacting it with dildos when I fell off my bed. I had a repairman in my house at the same time downstairs and I couldn’t stop laughing at myself.

Don’t forget to check out the whole Wicked Sensual Care line, Jessica Drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex films, and other movies that Jessica is in the make you national Masturbation Month a good one! Happy orgasms to you from Adult Empire!